Ok, I started this post as a list of Never-to-do's but the post seemed to go on forever so instead I took one nugget from the list and expanded on it. So here is my first post on Never-to-do. This one is a piece of advice for charmers. For the purpose of this blog, Charmers are people trying their luck charming someone, although this particular post is focused on guys. So here it goes...
If you are trying to court a girl, never tell her/tease her about/joke about/whisper to her: 'Girls are Stupid' or any other equivalent generalized statements like 'Girls are bad drivers' or 'Girls gossip'. We girls, in general, take these allegations personally. So the statement 'Girls are stupid' are translated to 'You are stupid' and hence forth. Obviously, you don't want to say that to the girl you are trying to engage. And please the add-ons like, 'Present company excused' or 'Of course, I don't mean you' etc. makes us wonder even more that you actually do mean it personally.
Once you made any statement like that, its an all-lose situation after that. Don't even start giving some isolated examples to prove your point. Even if you prove it to be true, somehow, you will loose her. Each and every statement you make in favor of your allegation, will just expose your insensitivity, lack of proper manners and a 20th-century mentality. None of these qualities are desirable.
If you think you are being funny or just teasing someone by making these ridiculous statements, you need to get your sense of humor checked by an expert (I volunteer. General diagnosis: You have a sick sense of humor. Incurable disease. Sorry, I digress..). We don't think insults are amusing, even though we might not express that on your face (we are more polite than you are, obviously).
And for those of you who think these statements to be actually true, I have full sympathy for your spouse. She either must have very high level of tolerance or very low self-esteem. And no, I am not a feminist. I don't raise flags of woman empowerments but I refuse to be insulted because of some stupid notion you have about female species.
Thats it for today's "Nevers". Watch out this space for more "Nevers". Someday, sometime it will be back.
hmm.....these are the very basic rules...if one cannot follow these rules...these implies not to loved ones only but everyone around us..we r all humans..we should always respect ppl around us......:)
ReplyDeleteHmmmm..agreed. But you wouldn't believe how many people violate these simple rules of politeness. And they actually think they are being funny...amazing ideas of sense of humors they have. :)
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